As per oxford dictionary Date is “A social or romantic appointment or engagement” or Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple as per urban dictionary.
Khajuur ko bhi english me “DATE” kehtey hai.
There are numerous numbers of types of dating one can hear or see these day. Some has grouped it as Dating for Fun (Enjoyment), Dating to See (Intentional with long term goals), Dating to decide (Courtship) and post marriage Dating (Rare). Some have acknowledged dating as short term, long term, one night stand/Hook up or mat be live in with No strings attached.
Our society is in nurturing phase now with sudden spurt in dating sites, social net working and YES , Stay Uncle completing the task very well.
As I covered in my previous article about honesty and clarity of thoughts on dating sites, I would like to explain a bit more. If you are using a dating app and met some person and your vibes say to know them more, better met in person as things are more clear. I have seen sometime the start is not on good note but once they met its “Bang” as well as some spending a hell lot of time to person before meeting them runs as worst first meet or no interest. I will suggest that meet (Date - Just meet to know that person) and see the vibes, conversation, connection and see what you feel now. Do not just waste the time in texting much for long time, it might turn waste of your precious time.
While on the dating site, seen some of questionnaire to evaluate the personality and I feel as with some knowledge of research background that It does not have reliability or validity. In simple words IT WILL NOT SHOW THE CLEAR PICTURE OF THAT PERSON. You can form opinion but judging it from it might not be good decision.
Even though, If you are using the dating site, It is better to write exclusive original summary of you.
Hello/Hi/Hi Babe/Hey hi/Hey Sexy/Nice ***** is a big turn off for both the genders, Read the other person profile well, drop some interesting punch question or appreciation (Hey, How many countries you have been till now OR …… colour suits you well.). Yes this is as a pick up line and you should know how to flow the conversation.
No need to rush to take that person on WhatsApp / Gtalk or any other mean. Be patient. Once both gets comfort level, You can casually ask “Do you wish to talk on …………………, I wish to get out of this app.
If any body has seen class series “Mind your Language” ?, I love the way Giovanni says “OK COCKEY”. Me, Me and me can very very big turn off. Lets have equal weightage. Expressing and impressing has thin line in between. Its the Vibes and conversation that takes things rolling.
As Already I have posted in forum “Dating tips for Men and Women” , I will suggest you to read from it too. All are subjective but most are universal rule. I confess that I have less dated our desi KUDIs being most of the time out of country and dated some Firangs. SAB EK HAI !!! Rules are rules, COCKY are turn off if you really wish to get a nice person to date, Be Polite/Humble.
Seen many “Machos” with high intensity in pick ups/meets but when they are together, they do rush in intimacy like they did in meet and yes, HOTA WOHI HAI.. Tai Tai Fishhhh… Sabar rakkhoooo yaar. I know it is difficult to control the URGE, but if the opposite partner will not get satisfied and you are done ,..... then YOU ARE DONE. (Will write on this in details some other day).
Sex is mechanical , Intimacy is being passionate and it comes with chemistry even if you are not dating as serious it comes with time. Dating apps are not meant just to be Hook Up sites as Its says its DATING SITE.
“Usne Pucha kya pasand hai tumhey,
Main bus der tak ussey taakta rahaa.”
Shayar - HunterUncle.
THE FOLLOWING CONTENT IS BASED ON PERSONAL VIEWS.