i admit there is a reality to what you are saying. but perhaps it makes sense to be positive when you are out meeting someone for the first time, you know dos and donts. I would not wanna meet a guy who tells only his sob stories on the first date right? no I wouldnt. - there is another aspect to it, i think what you are trying to say is, yes we all have some shit to deal with in our lives and the partner should be able to mentally have that maturity to accept the person's demons. But my suggestion would be to let it unfold with the flow and see how both of you can tolerate each others demons.